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People are not all the same. Some have self-confidence and thus believe in themselves, knowing that they are going to get what they want from their life. They are confident in their capacity of dealing with any situation that may occur. They act very self-confident, so that even people around them notice their aura of self-assurance, feeling well in their company.
In contrast, there are other people who do not dare to show what they are capable of. They are gifted, but do not confide enough in their own abilities. These people are victims of the several myths that surround self-confidence. One of the foremost myths about self-confidence is that people are born with self-confidence, that it is something that cannot be learned. This is anything but true. Self-confidence, like other skills, can be built. All you need is right guidance and a belief in yourself.
Other people consider self-confidence as being linked to good looks. They cannot see that one has nothing to do with the other. People look just as confident as they feel. The only way to overcome this myth is learning to believe in their strength.
Actually, talent and self-confidence are not to be taken one for another. There are scores of talented actors and actresses who do very well in their professions but whose personal lives are torn by lack of self-confidence. Talent can be an important component of self-confidence, but it is certainly not a substitute for self-confidence. You do not need to be a good actor to harness the skills that you possess.
Another myth is that self-confidence is directly proportional to the recognition and praise that an individual gets in his or her life; the ones who are not so lucky wallow in self-pity. Of course you feel good if others appreciate your work, but you cannot simply depend on the praise lavished by others. To get so far to be praised by the others, you have to work very hard – and this you can do only if you are self-confident. The same applies to those who are not successful. They, too, can earn praise if they work hard and win people’s respect.
Such people should look at children. Children believe in themselves, and this gives them the self-confidence to try to do things they have never done before, be it learning how to cycle or how to swim. In fact, no child is born knowing all the skills. But it does not take long to teach children most of the basic skills. So, why should it be difficult for adults to learn new skills or brave new challenges?
Another myth is that only self-confident people can afford to take risks. Which, again, is not true. In fact, self-confident people are more realistic about their capabilities; they can appreciate their limits. Even more important, they know how to deal with failure. In contrast, people who lack self-confidence are afraid of failure, which keeps them from taking on new tasks. They constantly pine for the approval of others, and when they do not get it they end up losing their self-confidence.
It is a question of looking at things. People must realize that self-confidence is a state of mind. It is not dependent upon a person’s beauty or looks. It flows from a person’s self-belief, and this belief can be built. All that a person needs to do is to debunk myths that self-confidence cannot be acquired or that self-confidence is a byproduct of exceptional knowledge, skills and luck. Once they do so, they will find it easier to acquire the same magnetic powers that self-confident people have.
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Self confidence definitely something that can be gained but the main problem is that most people are afraid to push themselves outside their comfort zone in order to grow.
Things like toastmasters have been around for years yet people are afraid to attend out of fear of being bested by long term members, not realizing that nearly every single member came from a similar place of lacking self confidence and speaking ability.
All you really need to build self confidence is the right attitude of “im going to push my comfort zone and grow”, and it cannot possibly come from external factors like how much praise you get because its *self* confidence meaning its built from within.
Real true in fact even i am still a little hesitant when it comes to taking certain decisions in certain such issues. Real cool write up man keep up the good work.
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The information on Self Confidence is quite interesting. Self-confidence is about believing in and liking yourself. It is being optimistic, assertive, taking personal responsibility, and being at ease with other people. Confidence to do a work generally means strong feeling from the inner part of your heart and mind that you can do that work easily. Confidence is built from success and what you learn from failure.
Once I discovered that the secret to self-confidence was all in the mind, my life changed. I no longer worried about how people would react to me. O focused on my belief about my self. Was I giving my best? Did I believe in my abilities? Did I feel confident about what I was saying? If the answer was no, I worked on myself until I could get that answer to change to a yes. Once it did, there were no limits to what I could do.
Hi Im Lee. I am in the process of gaining back my ’self confidence’.I believed in what someone else had told me and took it as true, only to wake up one day and realise that what they had said was based on jelousy and their own insecurities! But for years i have carried their words with me as a truth and it has affected my life in so many ways. Now i am working on regaining my self respect and confidence and changing my life! i would love to read more about self confidence and learn from others also. i would also like to share my journey on my personal blog.
Self confident people take risks and view the outcomes as blessings, challenges, and learning experiences (sometimes all 3 wrapped into one). Unconfident people avoid taking “chances” because they would rather live within the realm of the known. Confidence, translates from the Latin phrase “with fidelity” and is nothing more than acting in accordance with one’s beliefs, be they positive or negative. If you are negative, you are merely confident in the opposite outcome of what you desire. Very easy to change, it’s simply a matter of choice.
Thanks for the comments. I love reading these inspiring posts to reflect on the different experiences related to how positive thinking affects one’s life. There is an interesting article coming up on Whakate.com about Positive Thinking Facts. Check it out!
http://www.whakate.com/readerinformation/upcoming-positive-thinking-facts/
Thanks for this information. This article isas if written for me!.I just did all the negative things said in this article. I will work on improve my confidence.
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