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Living in the present is not something everybody does, and those who don’t, miss out the spectacle of their own lives. What about you? Most of the negative thoughts that we focus on are caused by worrying about the future or resenting the past. Whenever you do any of these activities, you are not living in the present, but rather you remain trapped into your past experiences.

Think about this:
• Logically, it is pointless worrying about the future, as most of the things we fear do not happen anyway. Moreover, since we still want imagine our future, why not imaging a positive one.
• Normally, it would not make any sense to resent the past either because you cannot change it. Why re-live and suffer about something you cannot do anything about?

A distracted mind is a field where concerns and worries grow easily. Living in the present is the key to create a happy and fulfilling life. Now, how can you get back living in the present, easily and effectively? There is a powerful method the “This is me doing this” technique that works to make yourself live in the present. It is a powerful positive thinking exercise that you can practice anytime and get interesting results in just minutes.

For instance, if you are washing dishes, start by saying to yourself “this is me washing dishes”. Repeat this calmly, concentrating on the act of washing dishes. Observe the elements involved in the process – the water running down the dish, the smell of the soap, etc.
As you repeat to yourself “this is me doing this or that”, you start becoming relaxed while other matters count less; you are giving orders to your mind to actively focus on what you are doing, and only that.

Then move on to the next task. Keep on telling yourself what you are doing. “This is me walking down the street”, “this is me feeding my cat”, etc. Feel how more and more calm overwhelms you as you keep on repeating, “This is me doing …”

After a few minutes of staying focused and repeating to yourself what you are doing, you will experience a feeling of well-being. All stresses and worries may seem to have simply vanished or worthless because the level your awareness of the immediate reality increases.
This can also be achieved by using your senses.

Stay focused. You are living in the present and you can learn how to effectively use positive thinking in everyday life. Talk to yourself positively while telling yourself what you are doing. Say “this is me brushing my teeth”, followed by “I am calm and experiencing the present”, “this is me brushing my teeth”, and “I feel good and relaxed”.

Maintaining a positive attitude is one of the greatest results of using this technique. It allows you to focus on the present rather than letting your mind slip away onto hypothetical events. It reduces all needless worries and anxieties. When practiced on a regular basis, this technique gives you the chance of being more aware of who you are, where you are, and what you are doing.

“You must live in the present, launch yourself on every wave, find your eternity in each moment. Fools stand on their island opportunities and look toward another land. There is no other land; there is no other life but this” (by Henry David Thoreau)

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The self-help process is the conscious, reasoning part of your “self” attempting to change other facets of your unconscious self, your actions, and your circumstances.

The understanding of scientific basis for self-help methods should help you view self-help in a realistic manner, and then, use it effectively. People usually learn to be the way they are, and therefore, at any point in life, they have the power to change. But perhaps sometimes it may not be easy to change. There are always reasons and causes for everything we do, and if we get to understand those reasons, which are solid, “lawful,” useful, we will get to the bottom of cause and effect relationships. Therefore, each of us could presumably gain considerable control over our own.

Specialists think of self-help programs to be intentional coping. It means dealing with the difficult situations in your life by taking deliberate control to improve the results of the situation. It also refers to recognizing your own weaknesses and working to overcome them and improve yourself and your lifestyle. The process may sometimes involve changing the environment or the people around you to improve your own condition or feelings. However, a self-help program particularly focuses on changing your own behavior, feelings, skills, thoughts, even at an unconscious level.

The self-help programs promote a breakthrough in the human thought because our culture attends far more to changing other people — making children behave, teaching others, motivating employees, fighting crime and drugs, selling ourselves or products to others, pleasing our lover, getting people to vote our way — rather than trying and changing ourselves. Trying to make things better often means attempting to change someone else. The traditional concepts of self-control, self-responsibility, and self-reliance have become unpopular during the past few years.

Besides, if the idea of self-help seems like commonsense to you, then you may be aware that our minds are almost constantly trying to solve some existing or approaching problem. That’s right, most of us are self-helping all the time. For instance, every time you plan your actions by imagining how to handle a particular situation. No matter if it takes only a few moments to think of what you might say during a conversation, that is also a self-helping process.

Our brain has the great ability to quickly visualize multiple ways of approaching a difficult situation. We are constantly asking ourselves “what should I say or do now?” This kind of inquiry usually involves looking of alternative approaches as well as imagining what the outcome of each option might be. Learning and accurately applying self-help methods which aren’t simply attempts to “trying to change” on your own, has proven to be just as effective for many people as engaging in much more costly psychotherapy.

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